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You are a dope person! Start acting like it. 

Up until a few years ago, I did not think highly of myself. 

I never thought I could run my own business.
I never thought I could facilitate workshops for young girls. 
I never thought I was deserving of real, unconditional love.  

On top of that, I had all these fears constantly circulating in my head. 

What if I fail? 
What if I go broke? 
What if I never live up to the expectations of the ones I love? 

After rising and falling, again and again. I learned the most rewarding things in life take hard work, dedication, and most importantly faith. 

I am not talking about faith in the Universe or God. I am talking about faith in yourself. You have to believe in YOU, before you start this journey. Trust and believe, if you don’t believe in yourself no one will. 

I have curated a small but mighty list of people who have pushed me to believe in myself over the years. If you need a little more of a push, no worries. I got your back! Simply contact me to schedule a FREE coaching consultation and I will help you to get on your way. 

Alright, now let’s check out some of my faves: 

 
 “The Alchemist” by Paulo Coelho

“The Alchemist” by Paulo Coelho

For me, this is where it began. In his best-selling book “The Alchemist”, Coelho reminds us that we all have a purpose in our lives whether we want to believe it or not. It is up to us to follow the omens in order to fulfill our personal journey.  From here, I learned to listen to my heart over my mind. Sometimes, my mind leads me to believe I am failing, but my heart always reassures me I am on the right path. 

If you are currently struggling to find a deeper meaning in your daily life. Trust me, this book is for you! 

 
 Photo Credit: shesbeautyandthebeast.com

Photo Credit: shesbeautyandthebeast.com

My sister Tracy G is dropping some powerful gems through her audio vision boards. She speaks life when it comes to self-love, relationships, purpose, and (of course) securing the bag. It only takes a few minutes a day, but she will leave you feeling like you are the Queen of the world. You can find her albums on Itunes and Soundcloud!

 
  “Acts of Faith” by Iyanla Vanzant:

 “Acts of Faith” by Iyanla Vanzant:


The process of believing in yourself is daily battle.  Some days I feel I can conquer the world and other days I feel completely helpless. Acts of Faith is your daily armor to save yourself from the blows of self-doubt and insecurity. Stick to a page a day and watch your soul start to fly. 

Last thing, YOU GOT THIS! Don’t every let anyone (including yourself) make you think any differently. 


With Love, 

Tiffany Lit’Shae 

Boss Up! by learning to be more selfish.

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Boss Up! by learning to be more selfish. 

For a majority of my life, I was the definition of selfless. I was always doing for others with the expectation of nothing in return. Need a ride? Call Tiff. Need money? Call Tiff. Your boyfriend breaks up with you at 2 AM in a drunken fit? Call Tiff for advice.

You can check out my full story here, but it was something ingrained since birth. The women in my family always gave their last. The world smiled upon them and they would often hear phrases like “God is going to bless you”, but I saw the other side of God’s blessing. It was continues hurt, anxiety, and strain that a lack of appreciation does on mental health.

On December 31st 2016, I made my first selfish move. We will talk about that later, but it opened me up to the beauty of being selfish.  On my journey, I learned a few things that I want to share with all the selfless women in my life.

Understand that is okay to be selfish: I was taught as a kid that God loves a giving heart, but we take that sentiment a little too far. We must learn that life is about GIVE and TAKE. It is totally okay to take time to love and appreciate YOU! When we allow ourselves to replenish, we place ourselves in a better position. I want you to say this mantra 3x.

 

“I am valuable to the people in my life. I am giving to myself so that I can better give to others in the future.”

 

Set Expectations: My first problem? I had high expectations for myself, but none for those around me. I gave without expecting anything back, but what I didn't now realize is that people in your life who love you and care about you will see how much you give and will step in to help, simply because the love you. There will be no need to ask or beg, They will see your selfless nature and want to pour into you.

Weigh Your Options: So, take a pen and write this down, because I want you to remember this right here. YOU ALWAYS HAVE OPTIONS. Before you commit to any situation, weigh YOUR options and make the best decision for you and your dependents. I did a lot of things in relationships and friendships that didn't suit me. I let others make decisions in my life for me. Everything was divine in the end, but next time I am avoiding all.

Anywho with all that said, go be a selfish boo!

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